March 2011:  Can Opposites be Compatible?  

January 2011:  You've Had an Affair... Now What?   

July 2010:  What to Do if Your Spouse Says, "I'm Not Happy."   

May 2010: Saving Your Marriage from Your Spouse's Affair    

 

 

 

Hold Me Tight, by Sue Johnson, Ph.D., Little, Brown and Company, New York, 2008.

 

This is the best book for couples who want to apply the Emotionally Focused Marital Therapy (EFT) to their marriages. It was written by Dr. Sue Johnson, the creator of EFT, and gives the clearest and most complete presentation of the subject. The heart of the book is the "seven conversations for a lifetime of love."

 

 

Safe Haven Marriage, by Archibald D. Hart, Ph.D. and Sharon Hart Morris, Ph.D., Thomas Nelson, Nashville, 2003.

 

Written for couples from an EFT perspective, this book is very readable and full of useful insights. It can be hard to find in bookstores, but can easily be ordered from Amazon.com.

 

 

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John M. Gottman, Ph.D., Three Rivers Press, New York, 1999.

 

This book is based on extensive research and spells out exactly what it takes to build a successful marriage. Included are specific skills that can help any couple improve their relationship.

 

Not "Just Friends", by Shirley P. Glass, Ph.D., Free Press, New York, 2003.

 

Dr. Glass's excellent book is a step-by step guide through the process of infidelity, from suspicion to revelation to healing. It is probably the best book ever written on the subject.

 

 

How to Break Your Addiction to a Person, by Howard M. Halpern, Ph.D., Bantam Books, New York, 1982.

 

Written a few years ago, this book is still worth its weight in gold for helping a person to break away from an affair partner.

 

 

Should We Stay Together?, by Jeffry Larson, Ph.D., Jossey-Bass, San Franciso, 2000.

 

This book, for premarital couples, is a scientifically proven method for evaluating your relationship and improving its chances for long-term success. It is highly recommended for anyone who is considering marriage.

 

 

 

 

This is the website for the Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in Ottawa, Canada, the institute that provided Dr. Lindsay with his training in EFT.

 

 

 

This is the website for the award-winning communication skills training program, Couple Communication I.

 

 

 

This is the website for the Prepare / Enrich Inventory, used by Dr. Lindsay to assess both premarital and married couples for strengths and growth areas.

 

 

 

The interactive Attachment Style Survey found at this website takes about 5 minutes to complete. The questionnaire is designed to measure the way you relate to others in intimate relationships.

 

 

 

If you want to know more about attachment theory and research, this summary by R. Chris Fraley will be of interest. Among other things, this summary explains how early studies on attachment in the infant-mother relationship gave rise to later studies on attachment in adult romantic love.